Premarital counseling is vital to creating an amazing marriage because it helps you create the marriage you want to be a part of. Are you dating someone you love and believe they are the one for you? Or maybe, you have some questions before you take the next step and get engaged or married. Can’t relate to the first two? Try this one on; you are great and want to do everything you can to build an amazing marriage and know premarital counseling will get you started in the right direction. Most couples fit into one of these categories and the great news is that At New Vision Counseling and Consulting we can help.
What is Premarital Counseling Like?
Premarital counseling takes you on a journey of discovery. You discover things about yourself and your fiance’ that you may not have known. Through premarital counseling we help you set expectations, understand each other’s pasts and how they affect their present, help identify core beliefs, and uncover red flags that need to be addressed. These red flags are typically unresolved issues with the person, their family or past relationships that will affect the marriage. By uncovering these we have the ability to help you work through them. We do this by empowering you with tools and resources along the way. And with all that you can start the work necessary to build a foundation that is strong and healthy. A foundation that is addressing the red flags and issues that could take you out. We help you start building a foundation that can support your hopes and dreams for life.
Do You Use Assessments?
At New Vision Counseling and Consulting we use a comprehensive premarital program called SYMBIS along with other books and resources. SYMBIS stands for SAVING YOUR MARRIAGE BEFORE IT STARTS. This program allows you and your spouse to go online and take an assessment that will go over a variety of topics pertaining to your marriage. These range from strengths, weaknesses, mindsets, and potential caution flags, communication, friends, family and money to name a few. This blog will walk you through what to expect during your premarital counseling sessions at New Vision Counseling and Consulting.
Environment
The environment is one where you can be your authentic self. It is our mission to create a safe place where you can share your challenges, gifts, and unique story with us. This will be important in order to have important conversations that help you identify areas of strengths and weaknesses in your relationship. This can be difficult at times when we address issues that are currently causing pain or uncover issues that could threaten your marriage in the future if not addressed. However, when God calls you together you will experience an inner peace and a knowing. And even though there may be sessions that are tough because of the issues you are facing, the counseling experience can validate that peace and leave you feeling excited and confident about your future marriage. It is important to know we will not make your decision to marry or not marry. However, we will walk with you through a proven process that we adapt to meet your specific needs and challenges. It is our experience that you will know what God is calling you to do well before our last session. Our goal is to empower YOU to make the best decision according to where you feel God is leading you.
What to Expect
Before your first session you and your partner will both individually take the SYMBIS assessment. You will take it without consulting each other in order to get the best results. Throughout your weekly sessions with your therapist you will go through your report and walk through different topics related to your relationship and the impact they can have on a marriage. During this time you will discover new insights and dozens of new skills to strengthen your bond. You will also become progressively more clear if God is calling you together. In your last session you will discuss your take-aways and any remaining questions you have. And if you choose to pursue marriage then we will schedule a session one month after marriage to check in. Our goal is your highest success.
Next Step
If you and your partner are newly engaged and ready to take the next step, you are at the right place! We have a team of therapists that are ready to walk with you as you build the foundation for your marriage. We want to create a structure that doesn’t just last through the counseling process but is created to last a lifetime. Why wait? Take the next step by contacting us at (405) 921-7776 to learn more about how we help you. We look forward to hearing from you soon!