If you are engaged, it’s likely one of the most exciting times of your life. It’s a time filled with joy, excitement, and anticipation. You’re imagining your future together, dreaming about your life as husband and wife. A wedding is such a special day because it brings two families together in celebration of their love for one another. There is so much to be done, and so much to decide.
Many couples spend so much time dreaming about their wedding that they forget to consider whether the marriage those dreams will create is really what they want. This is the time to start thinking about your future together. It’s important that you both agree on the same goals for your marriage and how best to achieve them. Your wedding day will be over before you know it, but your marriage can last a lifetime through hard work and dedication. Premarital counseling can help equip you for the future so that both you and your partner have the relational skills and knowledge needed to nurture a long and happy marriage that is just as beautiful as that special day you put so much thought into.
We want you to feel excited and confident when you say “I do!”. We will guide you through critical conversations that need to be navigated prior to your big day. Through connection and understanding, we will help you identify areas of strengths and weaknesses in your relationship so that you have a personalized roadmap for a successful marriage aligned with each of your individual needs and values.
You can’t expect to prepare for every obstacle that will present itself in your relationship, but if you identify potential challenges early on and learn how to deal with them effectively, your marriage will remain anchored through even the most difficult times of life. We will equip you with skills for conflict resolution, communication, financial management, and parenting that will help strengthen your marriage before it even begins!
Here is a testimony from Hannah and Josh, who invested in their future with premarital counseling at New Vision.
They started out being excited and hopeful about the opportunity to build a relationship that was filled with support and happiness instead of going down the road of hardship, fighting, and divorce as each of their parents had. Josh was nervous because he had never experienced anything but hurt and conflict.
Hannah was excited and hopeful that she could have a relationship like her grandparents. Her parents painted a picture of silence and unhappiness until they divorced when she was in high school. She knew she wanted more for her relationship.
Josh was not thrilled about seeking help from a therapist because he viewed people who needed counseling as weak and unstable. But, by researching the top premarital therapists in the state and reviewing the successful testimonies that our team at New Vision helped to create for other young couples, he discovered something… These other couples were not crazy, they were smart. Smart because they realized that a healthy premarital foundation is the key to unlocking a marriage that will stand the test of time. Through counseling, Josh came to realize that he did not have to follow in the tumultuous footsteps of his mom and dad. Hannah realized that they could create a marriage that resembled the love and endurance that she so admired in her grandparents’ marriage. Through therapeutic insight and awareness, they both realized that their parents were just trying to figure out life together but had never been taught how.
Through our practical yet powerful premarital counseling, this couple started building their foundation on God. With this foundation, Josh discovered how much he had tried to please others to feel good about himself. Hannah realized she was living out of a spirit of shame. She discovered that she had never felt good enough or truly loved by her parents. But through this, she discovered that God’s love was enough. Not just in theory, but in practice. Through premarital counseling, she was able to walk out of shame and into God’s love. You are likely wondering how? A few ways were through the powerful therapeutic resources we provided, books she read, and doing the deeper work of discovering who she was. By uncovering the issues that caused her parent’s divorce, she was able to heal the scars that her tainted past had left on her heart. Through this time she learned to give love more freely without strings attached.
Josh was able to move forward and break free from the chains of his past. The chains of constantly blaming and attacking each other to solve problems instead of working together. He was able to go deeper through the issues, and actually resolve them. Something his parents never did.
They were a joy to work with. And through tears and hard work, they created an amazing marriage. Premarital counseling is so much more than a box to check for a cheaper marriage license. It is an opportunity to create a foundation to change the rest of your life. It sets you up to break generational curses passed on to you and opens the door to generational blessings to move forward into your future. It is the opportunity to create the marriage you dreamed of through practical steps and strategies. Strategies that not just help you build the future, but also deal with the issues causing you pain today.
Therapy will expose and uncover areas of your life that most people get stuck in and never get out of. Aspects that trap many couples in a relational quicksand filled with disdain surrounding finances, shame-based living, only loving to get instead of living to give, and many more. These are the areas we start to address in premarital counseling.
Our therapists bring a toolbox filled with decades of evidence-based knowledge and the most cutting-edge practices utilized in marriage counseling today. Each of our therapists is trained in an unparalleled premarital platform based on scientifically proven relationship practices known as “Save Your Marriage Before It Starts” (SYMBIS). This gives us the ability to effectively assess your relationship and help you apply personalized skills that are perfectly tailored to fit your unique lifestyle.
We will meet you where you are and help you both uncover and heal the wounds of your past so they no longer have the power to tarnish the future you will share together. Through understanding and compassion, we will guide you on your journey of healing and restoration to an incredible marriage! We are here to help you create a marriage that will be amazing for life, not just a day.
Are you still waiting or are you ready to take the next step? We are here and ready to journey with you towards an incredible marriage. The next easy step is to contact us at (405) 921-7776 or click the button below to begin the process of changing your life by creating the marriage you’ve always wanted. This is your sign to start. We look forward to meeting you soon!