Grief is something that you can’t begin to understand until you are knee deep in it. It is the natural response you have when someone or something you love has been ripped away from you. You might experience a multitude of emotions as you begin to process your loss and it won’t look the same for everyone. Even though everyone’s grief journey looks different there are healthy and unhealthy ways of processing your grief. In this blog I will go over 5 healthy ways you can cope as you begin to process your new life.
Establish a routine
Grief can single-handedly make your life feel like it’s spiraling out of control. It might seem like the foundations of everything you once knew have crumbled in an instant. While grief is an inevitable and natural part of life, it can be comforting to find some sense of normalcy when every other aspect feels abnormal.
Try to incorporate things that give your day structure. That can look different for everyone. Here are some examples:
- Waking up at a certain time
- Eating meals at appropriate times
- Making your bed
- Doing something social (coffee with a friend)
- Doing some type of exercise
- Make a to-do list with small items (eg. get dog food)
Accept how you feel
There are a multitude of emotions that you could face when dealing with loss and none of them are right or wrong. How you grieve might look completely different from how your mom, brother, or spouse might grieve. With that being said, don’t compare your journey to anyone else.
Acknowledge how you feel and let it sit. Don’t suppress it. As you face various emotions it might be helpful to write in a journal or confide in a therapist/ trusted friend. By doing this you are allowing yourself to process and validate your emotions.
Take care of yourself physically
As you process grief it not only takes a lot out of you emotionally, but physically. Even though it is easy to put on the backburner, It is important to take care of your body. You can do this everyday by:
- Doing simple exercises (walking)
- Sleeping and resting
- Prioritizing your hygiene (brush teeth, shower, brush your hair)
- Getting fresh air and sunlight
- Drinking water
- Eating multiple meals
Find a safe person
When you are grieving there are going to be times where you want to be alone and that is perfectly fine. But It is important to realize if you are isolating yourself and internalizing how you feel. It is vital to find a person that you can be 100% vulnerable with in the hard times. That can be a family member, friend, or therapist. By doing this you are not only allowing others to help you, but you are acknowledging your emotions.
Find ways to honor what you lost
If you are grieving a person or something else important in your life, honoring them can help you process what you are feeling. Honoring a person lets you reminisce on fond memories and can help you be grateful for the impact they had in your life.
Some ways you can do this is by:
- Telling stories
- Sharing traits that you loved about them
- Celebrating their birthday
- Keeping a journal of favorite memories
- Doing activities that they loved
How we can help
Grief can be a difficult process to go through alone. Here at New Vision Counseling and Consulting, we have trained therapists who are ready and willing to help you work through your grief. We will provide a safe space for you to be vulnerable and navigate your grief. To get started, give us a call at (405) 921-7776 or visit our website NewVisionCounseling.org