Rebuilding Your Life After Trauma

Rebuilding Your Life After Trauma

I recently worked with a client who experienced a great deal of trauma in his life.  The betrayal and pain he experienced from the people closest to him made him believe that he would never be able to move forward.  No matter what he did to get free he remained paralyzed by his past.  Fast forward to today.  He has created a new life for himself that he never thought was possible.  Through counseling and continuing to show up to life he has created something new.   He created a life full of hope, joy, and fresh beginnings.  A life he previously thought was only for other people who didn’t have severe trauma.  The good news… This is also possible for YOU!

When faced with trauma it can often feel as though you will be defined by it forever.  In this blog I will identify ways that you can create a beautiful life beyond the trauma that you have experienced.

Find Ways to Love Yourself

Trauma often does a good job at making you forget parts of yourself that you once loved. Discovering things that fill you up can help rebuild your life.  Imagine your perfect day from start to finish.  What would that look like for you?  Who is with you?  What activities are you engaging in?  After answering these questions, start to integrate these aspects into your everyday life.  Maybe it means playing a sport or an instrument, spending time with friends, or spending the day reading a good book.  Let yourself be present each day and find things that bring you joy.

Find a Community 

Finding a group of people who love and support you can make a huge difference when you have experienced traumatic events.  You need individuals in your life who are going to encourage and respect the journey you are on.  Think about the people who are feeding into your life right now.  Are they lifting you up?  If you answered no, then it is time to make some changes in your community.  Some ways you can do this are by joining a church group, finding a therapist, or looking for positive relationships to add into your life.

Embrace Forgiveness 

Forgiving someone or yourself can be an unbearably hard act that seems almost impossible at times.  Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you, but it means letting go of feelings such as resentment or revenge that you might be holding on to.  As Christians we have been called to forgive one another because Jesus has forgiven us. Ephesians 4:32 says, Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”  God never said that this would be easy, but it is a step in the direction of living a life of emotional and spiritual freedom.

Next Steps

If you have experienced trauma and are looking to build a life full of freedom, joy, and hope we are here to help.  At New Vision Counseling and Consulting we have a team of therapists trained to walk with you.  You can reach us at (405) 921-7776 or go to our website at to learn more about how we can best help you.

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Andrew BrownAndrew Brown
11:05 06 Feb 24
Shawn called me directly and sought out a resolution with me for a recent poor experience I had. He showed genuine care and consideration over the phone, and demonstrated he truly cares about the clients that come here and wants everyone to get the help they need. That's how it needs to be in any place helping others in God. God bless.
Andy EatonAndy Eaton
21:00 11 Oct 23
I totally recommend Josh Rhoades. He's helped me overcome a lot of anxiety and work-related stress and the effects it's had on me this year. For any guys out there wondering if they should go to counseling, you should definitely give Josh and New Vision a try.
Mark VonFeldtMark VonFeldt
12:04 23 Aug 23
I admit I didn't think I needed counciling but when I hit a tough period in life. Caleb McKean at New Vison Counseling was extrodinary in helping me out and providing encourgement, prespective and confidence. In addition, it was great seeing Shawn McGuire who consitantly provided an uplifting personality that’s just contagious.
Elizabeth ProtzmanElizabeth Protzman
11:41 24 May 23
My husband and I just wrapped up counseling with Shawn. And if you told me 6 months ago our family would be how we are now, I would have been in total disbelief. Shawn’s approach to counseling is next level and took us to new places we never thought that we could experience freedom and he put a light on places we never knew were still dragging us down.My husband (before counseling) had past trauma that weighed him down so heavily that his negative self talk was taking over his mental life. He was completely unable to be social anywhere, see positivity in anything, and talked with a super meek voice because he didn’t see worth in himself. We thought that “this is just his personality”, but Shawn was able to uncover the trauma that was holding him back and helped him break free of it. He now speaks with a voice to be heard and even he engages in social situations!I went through a terrible health scare while we were going through sessions. My optometrist thought that I had a tumor or fluid build up in my skull. Shawn helped me navigate all of the feelings that I kept shoving down. On my second session of talking about this medical situation, we really got to the root of my stress and behavior in this situation and in life. I felt a ton of weight lifted off of me in that moment just by digging out every root in my heart that wasn’t welcome there. Later that day (a Thursday) I had my MRI scans and that Sunday I woke up headache/migraine free for the first time in four months. Monday I got the news that nothing was there. I truly believe that God did a healing work in that therapy session. A physical healing of my body and a spiritual healing of my mind.Through all of this Shawn was not only there for just our counseling sessions, but when I was going through all of the medical stuff he would check in and see how everything was going. He recommended for my husband to go to a camp that absolutely played a part in changing my husband’s life. And all that I’ve shared is only the surface of all of the healing we received. I would have to write a novel for the rest, lol.If you’re looking for healing and willing to show up and put in the work…Shawn will help you get there.
Steve RodriguezSteve Rodriguez
14:25 06 May 22
New Vision Counseling and Consulting saved my marriage as they helped and are helping me deal with my issues with depression and anxiety. I have been taught new methods of dealing with these issues and they are life saving. I have enjoyed my experience with Shawn Maguire, the best therapist I could ask for, and feel this place is a Godsend. I never thought therapy would work for me but I was wrong and wish I had come here sooner. Excited for what the future holds.

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