Why are Boundaries Important

Why are Boundaries Important

What are boundaries?  Boundaries are self-guidelines you create in order to identify what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior.  Without boundaries it allows your individuality to be defined by the needs of others.  If you are living a life without boundaries you might be feeling emotions such as anger, resentment, or unfulfillment.

Boundaries are like a house. There are certain people you will allow in different areas of your house.  Take your front porch vs. your living room.  There are a lot of people you would allow on your front porch ranging from you mailman to your best friend.  Your living room, on the other hand, is just for friends and family.  Your living room represents parts of you that you would only share with the closest people to you.  Without boundaries you might be allowing your mailman to watch tv in your living room.

In this blog, I will go over why setting personal boundaries is important for your well-being and relationships.


Boundaries are important to your well-being because it gives you a sense of self.  You are able to differentiate what is healthy for you and what is burning you out.  For example, say you pick your friend’s kids up from school everyday, but by doing this you are not able to cook dinner for your own family.  Without boundaries you are allowing the needs of others to override your own needs.  Boundaries strengthen your well-being by:

  • Understanding your own values and beliefs
  • Allows you to communicate your thoughts
  • Know when a relationship is toxic
  • Take responsibility for your own actions
  • Identify your emotions
  • Build independence


Boundaries are important for your relationships because it allows you to give and receive respect.  There are many types of boundaries in relationships.  There are physical, sexual, time, financial, and expectation boundaries.  If you do not set your own standards in these areas then it is easy for a person to take advantage of you.  Also if you aren’t able to identify your own boundaries it will be hard to respect the boundaries of others.  Here are some tips when setting boundaries in your relationships:

  1. Be honest and open
  2. Communicate in person
  3. Have a time for you to talk
  4. Have a time for you to listen
  5. Focus on yourself when creating boundaries
  6. Be consistent

Next Step

Are you having a hard time creating boundaries?  Is it affecting your well-being or relationships?  At New Vision Counseling and Consulting we have trained therapists that will walk alongside you as you identify and create boundaries that are going to produce the best version of yourself.   You can reach us at (405) 921-7776 or go to our website at NewVisionCounseilng.org to learn more about how we can best help you.

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Andrew BrownAndrew Brown
11:05 06 Feb 24
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Andy EatonAndy Eaton
21:00 11 Oct 23
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Mark VonFeldtMark VonFeldt
12:04 23 Aug 23
I admit I didn't think I needed counciling but when I hit a tough period in life. Caleb McKean at New Vison Counseling was extrodinary in helping me out and providing encourgement, prespective and confidence. In addition, it was great seeing Shawn McGuire who consitantly provided an uplifting personality that’s just contagious.
Elizabeth ProtzmanElizabeth Protzman
11:41 24 May 23
My husband and I just wrapped up counseling with Shawn. And if you told me 6 months ago our family would be how we are now, I would have been in total disbelief. Shawn’s approach to counseling is next level and took us to new places we never thought that we could experience freedom and he put a light on places we never knew were still dragging us down.My husband (before counseling) had past trauma that weighed him down so heavily that his negative self talk was taking over his mental life. He was completely unable to be social anywhere, see positivity in anything, and talked with a super meek voice because he didn’t see worth in himself. We thought that “this is just his personality”, but Shawn was able to uncover the trauma that was holding him back and helped him break free of it. He now speaks with a voice to be heard and even he engages in social situations!I went through a terrible health scare while we were going through sessions. My optometrist thought that I had a tumor or fluid build up in my skull. Shawn helped me navigate all of the feelings that I kept shoving down. On my second session of talking about this medical situation, we really got to the root of my stress and behavior in this situation and in life. I felt a ton of weight lifted off of me in that moment just by digging out every root in my heart that wasn’t welcome there. Later that day (a Thursday) I had my MRI scans and that Sunday I woke up headache/migraine free for the first time in four months. Monday I got the news that nothing was there. I truly believe that God did a healing work in that therapy session. A physical healing of my body and a spiritual healing of my mind.Through all of this Shawn was not only there for just our counseling sessions, but when I was going through all of the medical stuff he would check in and see how everything was going. He recommended for my husband to go to a camp that absolutely played a part in changing my husband’s life. And all that I’ve shared is only the surface of all of the healing we received. I would have to write a novel for the rest, lol.If you’re looking for healing and willing to show up and put in the work…Shawn will help you get there.
Steve RodriguezSteve Rodriguez
14:25 06 May 22
New Vision Counseling and Consulting saved my marriage as they helped and are helping me deal with my issues with depression and anxiety. I have been taught new methods of dealing with these issues and they are life saving. I have enjoyed my experience with Shawn Maguire, the best therapist I could ask for, and feel this place is a Godsend. I never thought therapy would work for me but I was wrong and wish I had come here sooner. Excited for what the future holds.

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